We live in a world where women struggle to feel confident, sexy, powerful and let’s not even get started on, in control of their lives….
This BITCH destroys every ounce of self belief, self confidence, self love, body image, dreams, hopes and happiness….one woman at a time!!
You feel STUCK!
You feel UNAPPRECIATED!
You feel ALONE even when you’re in a crowd!
You don’t even recognise the woman in the mirror anymore…..
Sometimes we don’t even know if we speak negatively about ourselves or others….it just flows out of our mouth before we even realise, an unconscious pattern that keeps repeating over and over.
Identifying negative thinking can be a really BIG step in ditching the bitch in your head for good!
If you’re not sure if your self-talk is positive or negative?
Some common forms of negative self-talk include:
This is when you magnify the negative aspects of a situation and ignore all of the positive ones.
For example, you had a great day of fuelling your body. You drank over 2 litres of water, you stuck to the foods that make you feel energised and amazing and you were even complimented on how you are glowing right now. That evening, you focus only on that 1 piece of chocolate you ate after dinner and the glass of wine you shared with your partner and spiral into wanting to eat your emotions and hate on the woman in the mirror instead of celebrating the amazing day you achieved.
A place where you are forever in the world of guilt. Personalising is when something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself.
For example, You hear that an evening out with friends is cancelled last minute, you automatically assume that the change in plans is because no one wanted to be around you and they’ll just probably reschedule when you can’t make it.
This is when you are forever automatically anticipating the worst.
For example. The café on your morning coffee run gets your coffee wrong right at the beginning of your day, so you automatically think that the rest of your day will be a disaster and look for all the things that could go wrong.
👍 POLARISING 👎
This is a BIG ONE! This is when You only see things only as either good or bad/black or white. There is no middle ground, no room for movement. You feel that you have to be perfect every second of every day or you're a total failure.
I would certainly be lying to you if I said there is a magic pill that will have you feeling loved (by YOU) and you will always being thinking positive thoughts…
You are human gorgeous so the negative thoughts can creep in but check yourself and reframe your thoughts.
I have put together some really great steps to help you live a more positive life filled with self love….
① Focusing on positive thinking
I hear you girlfriend! You’re thinking, “Danni this is a load of BS if you expect me to focus on positive thinking every day of my life”….but stay with me here!
You can learn to turn negative thinking into positive thinking, effortlessly, BUT it does take TIME and PRACTICE — you are creating a new habit after all.
Here are some ways you can start to think and behave in a more positive and optimistic way:
② IDENTIFY AREAS OF CHANGE
The first step into becoming more optimistic and engage in more positive thinking (hence; shut that inner bitch up), first identify areas of your life that you usually think negatively about. This can be always having to be a mum, never having time for you, your relationship, your job, your lack of job, the list feels like it will never stop right?
Take a breath gorgeous and start small. Focus on just one area at a time and you fill soon discover you CAN find a positive spin on the hardest of days.
Let me know in the comments below what you are going to start on this week.
③ CHECK YOURSELF
Throughout the day, stop and evaluate what you're thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mainly negative, try to find a way to reframe what you are thinking. This can be as simple as..
Negative thought: I’ve got so much to do today, I’m NEVER going to get it done!
Reframe: I am so grateful for that I have already achieved today, the list is getting smaller!
④ BE OPEN TO A GOOD BELLY LAUGH
Give yourself permission to smile or laugh, especially during difficult times. Find laughter in your every day and feel the stress drip away.
⑤ FOLLOW A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE
Find a way to move every day, be it a 30 minute workout, 15 mintue walk in the sun or a beautiful flow yoga….just focus on getting that blood pumping. Exercise will positively affect your mood, reduce stress and most definitely quiet the bitch in your head.
Following a healthy diet is also essential for a positive mind. Find the foods that YOU love to fuel your mind and body with optimum energy and mindset. Ask yourself before each meal… “Will I feel And learn techniques to manage stress.
⑥ SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Surround yourself with the peeps that raise you up! People you can depend on to give helpful advice and feedback while considering who YOU ARE!
Negative and self absorbed people can increase your stress level and make you doubt everything about who you are. I know these people most definitely bring out that mean girl in my head! Step away from these people and give your energy for those that raise you up xx
⑦ PRACTICE POSITIVE SELF TALK
Now I challenge you to start by following one simple rule: Don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. If a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about YOU. Think about things you're thankful for in your life and focus on manifesting more of this.
Saying goodbye to your inner bitch is NOT a quick process but daily consistent action will bring you to a more enlightened self that truly loves the skin she is in…..
Just imagine LOVING THE WOMAN YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR!
Knowing when the bitch is showing up, WHY she’s showing up, HOW to get her to leave and then setting yourself up to kick her to the curb quickly when she rears he ugly head will ultimately CHANGE YOUR LIFE GIRLFRIEND.
TAKE THE STEPS
LET GO OF WHAT DOESN’T SERVE YOU
EMBRACE THE BEAUTY WITHIN YOU
LOVE THE WOMAN IN THE MIRROR!
For more guidance in releasing the inner bitch and loving the woman in the mirror contact me NOW! My latest program is starting September 11 and will empower you to take back the driver’s seat of your own life!
HAPPY RELEASING, YOU GORGEOUS WOMAN
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